As a young person, it's entirely natural to feel invincible. Like you'll live forever. The concept of death - even being an old person - feels so alien that you rarely consider it . Your own mortality gets brushed to one side, almost as though it doesn't apply to you.
But the truth is, none of us know how long we'll be here, we can only live one day at a time to be sure.. We can hedge our bets, but we never know if one of a number of things might happen and our time will be cut short.
It’s a strange thing to realize and accept your mortality . It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- and testing the myth "do red heads turn grey :)".
That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.
I’m 45 now. I don’t want to go anywhere any time soon.. I love my life. I love my fiends the farm , I am happy with what I am blessed with... I owe that to my family... But the control is out of my hands.It's out of any our hands really..
I haven’t started this ‘note so that death is feared - I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.
I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most! Most times at 3 am when so called "normal people sleep", what fun is normal anyways, ?:)
Those times you are un happy or complaining about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months) with everyone and not to say I don't and haven't done the same cuz I have.., just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that - breathe. Just sit silently for 60 seconds look around you and breathe it all in..
You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling. And for you guys, well I can't answer that seeing I'm a girl soo...
Let all that stuff go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’ve gone thru a really bad year with nothing I could do about it and all I wished for was that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my best friend,my online friends, with anything with my dogs. Just one more day..Make the days count people, time lost can never be given back.
I try to live a healthy life, in fact, probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.
Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realize just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling crappy about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.
Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is a pain I guess but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.
Whine less, people! .. And help each other more.
Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people, my teams of doctors and the time they invested in my life, they are like family to us..
Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are ad at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.
Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.
Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.
Get out in nature.Take a walk, smell the air, watch the earth alive around you,,
Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.
Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females ????and Im a girl bahaaaaaaaa :)
Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.
Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.
Cuddle your dog. talk to your dog, love them as much as they love you..
Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.
Work to live, don’t live to work.
Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.
Eat the cake. Zero guilt.
Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.
Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?
Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it - in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.
Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!
Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.
Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year - a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I hope to have some of the greatest times of my life.
..’Til we meet again.